How Are You Doing? No seriously—how are you? Because lately, I’ve been getting the sense that a lot of us are not okay, and we’re just not saying it out loud.

This time of year is supposed to be fun, right? Sunny days, backyard BBQs, and cute summer fits. But if I’m being honest? There’s a heaviness sitting on my chest right now. Work has been chaotic. I’ve been traveling, holding it down for my team, and trying to maintain some stability during an uncertain season. And when I’m finally home, I’m doing my best to be present, even when all I want is a nap, a hug, or to disassociate into my couch. Hell, I’m having a hard time even binging Netflix. Then let’s just add in working from home in a new state too! It’s lonelier than I expected. No local girlfriends to grab a drink with after work or take a class with on the weekend—and those small moments of connection? I feel the absence of them more than I expected.

My brain feels fried, my nervous system is shot, and even the things that usually bring me joy feel… muted.

It’s that weird emotional limbo where you’re too tired to be productive, but too wired to rest. Where the noise of the world is so loud, and yet you still feel oddly disconnected from everything and everyone—including yourself.

And with all of that… things have fallen through the cracks.

And by “things,” I mean me. I’ve been grabbing whatever food I can between meetings or flights—protein bars, airport snacks, half-eaten salads that should’ve been thrown out yesterday. The drinks? Yeah… they’ve been flowing more than I care to admit (okay, a lot), and not in a cute, cocktail-hour-with-the-girls kind of way. More like “this day was a dumpster fire, let’s numb it” kind of way. My workouts are inconsistent at best, nonexistent at worst, my energy’s off, and my patience is thin. And the weight? It’s creeping up—on the scale, yes—but more so in my chest, my mind, my mood. It’s the kind of weight that doesn’t just sit on your body, it sits on your spirit. And honestly? That’s the last damn thing I need right now.

Because when you fall through the cracks, everything else eventually does too. The to-do lists get longer, the motivation dips, the imposter syndrome pipes up louder than usual, and suddenly you’re questioning everything from your outfit to your career choices while in yesterday’s sweatpants on the couch about to doordash another party pack from Taco Bell. 

And then there’s the world. The news cycle feels like one long panic attack. We joke about it, share memes, laugh to keep from crying… but let’s be real: we’re still absorbing every headline and tucking it into that millennial trauma file we’ve been building since 9/11. We pretend it’s fine. It’s not. But pretending feels easier.

And if you’re a parent, I’m sure you’re looking at the summer calendar like: how am I even going to survive this? Camp sign-ups, birthday parties, swim lessons, sports, snacks, sunscreen, and don’t forget the $784 in “miscellaneous” expenses that somehow show up every week. I don’t even have kids and I’m exhausted on your behalf.

So what do we do?

Honestly? I don’t have the answers. But I had a low moment yesterday and I asked myself one simple question:

What have you done for yourself today?

The answer: not much. So I decided to start there. If all I can do today is reframe my mindset and try again tomorrow, that’s enough.

But now I’m asking you: What have YOU done for yourself today? 

Please do something. Even if it’s just moving your body and then rewarding yourself with Skittles. (Yes, that was me yesterday. We listen, and we don’t judge.)

Here’s what I’m working on to get back to me:

• Cutting back on drinking – I can’t do all of this with a foggy brain and a hangover-induced hate spiral.
• Cutting back on spending – Retail therapy is a scam if your credit card’s crying.
• Feeding myself better – Because what I put in is directly linked to what I can give out, and right now, I need to be functioning like a premium espresso machine, not a busted Keurig.
• Asking for help – Even when it feels awkward. Even when I’d rather white-knuckle it.
• Taking in some vitamin D – Yes, I need to get outside more and enjoy that it’s summer. And hey, maybe a little “vitamin D” from the hubs too (heyoooo).

We’re all just trying to keep our heads above water right now. But I promise, even the smallest act of care for yourself counts. You’re worth that.